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Our secret to making our marriage last is so simple: laughter. Every argument, every annoyance, every gross fart smell can disappear with an outburst of laughter.

I always say that God put Travis in my life to make me laugh, and Travis tells me his daily goal is to make me laugh. As an INFJ, I am a pretty serious person, complete with resting bitch face (RBF), so when I get a chance to laugh it just feels good. And I love laughing! I love the fact that I can count on laughter to keep our marriage together.

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No relationship is perfect. Our marriage is not perfect. Do not look at this post and compare your marriage or relationship. I am certainly not trying to provide a highlight reel here, but who wants to dwell on all the bad stuff?

With that said, pretty much every single time we get into a little tiff, one of us will start laughing and make the other one laugh too. When I look back at our 14 years of being together (including dating), I do not remember a time that we were mad at each other for more than a few hours. It usually ends with one of us dancing or singing or hopping around and trying to make the other one laugh. I am so thankful I get to go through life with someone who keeps me laughing.

I do remember that when my great Uncle Kenny married us, my great Aunt Nadine looked at me and said I hope the two of you break his history because every couple he married ended up divorced. Since we married in October 2010, my uncle passed, but I think he would be pleased knowing that our marriage secret is laughter.

What’s your secret for making your marriage last? Do you use laughter to keep your relationship in the good?

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8 comments on “marriage: our secret to making it last”

  1. INFP also with RBF coming up on 45 years here. I never knew what it was called, lol! It sounds like you guys are truly blessed, and I wish you many, many more years of laughter.

  2. Puppy face. If one of us gets mad (usually me because I’m hyper-sensitive), the puppy face comes out a couple of hours later and I laugh and melt. So maybe our secrets are similar. Laughter. And figuring out how to split the household weight. Which is always a challenge, but doable! He knows my two chores I just cannot do are cat litter and toilets. 😂😂

  3. I’d say communication! Marriage is hard. Being able to communicate how you are feeling, what your needs are is very important. And if you can’t, you find someone to help be the moderator and teach you how. Not ashamed to say we sought a therapist to help with this!

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